For newlyweds, life can be exciting and fun. It can also be filled with hardships for which they are not prepared. Marriage is an extremely unique relationship that takes a lot of time to nurture. When you first get married, a lot of your expectations are filled.
However, marriage comes with some unexpected surprises as well. Here is a list of the six most neglected concerns for newlyweds:
Communication
This is probably the biggest and most overlooked problem for newlyweds. In fact, whether or not you realize it, you and your loved one are always communicating on some level. The key is to make the communication between you and your spouse productive.
You two will disagree sometimes; it is inevitable. Fighting about these disagreements, however, is a choice that you make. Learn to communicate clearly and make your feelings known in order to avoid misunderstandings that can manifest into something much larger.
The joining of more than just people
When people get married, they seem to forget that the person they are marrying comes with a lot of stuff. Their things are not always going to go well with your things. If you have multiples of the same thing or you want to buy completely new stuff together, you only have a few options available.
You can sell this extra stuff, throw it away, or you can put it into storage. Finding storage is usually a lot easier than fighting over which stuff you are going to sell and which stuff you are going to keep.
Understanding intimacy
Intimacy is one of the key reasons why people get married. Keep in mind, however, that intimacy runs deeper than just the physical relationship between you and your spouse. Intimacy is also about how connected you are to your partner on an emotional level.
To keep a marriage happy and healthy, you have to be willing to connect with each other on an emotional and physical level. Open communication again is central to identifying and resolving intimacy dilemmas, both emotional and physical.
Family and friends
When you marry someone, you are not just marrying that person. You are marrying their whole family. This is an aspect that typically goes overlooked. Having problems with your loved one’s family or friends certainly will lead to problems at home.
Strengthen your relationship by strengthening your bond with their friends and family.
Children
One common problem that newlyweds face is having kids too soon. A lot of times, newlyweds have kids before they are even comfortable living with each other. This is usually because couples think that kids will “fix” whatever is wrong in their marriage.
In reality, kids are going to make things more difficult. Learn to be happy together before throwing kids into the mix.
Money
If there is one thing that breaks people up faster than anything on this list, it is money. Finances are a burden for newlyweds who are learning to take on new financial responsibilities. Figuring out who earns what and who pays the bills is extremely important. The money is now shared, and you have to be willing to talk about how it is going to be spent.
Being able to identify these problems before they arise can help you build a lasting marriage. Sit down with your spouse to talk about any concerns that you may be having, whether they are on this list or not. Good luck with your important and exciting new journey!
About the Author:
A recent college graduate from University of San Francisco, Anica is a full-time freelance writer. She has already published articles for a variety of industries, ranging from technology to beauty to health. She loves dogs, the ocean, and anything outdoor-related. You can connect with her on Google+. For finding storage in Las Vegas and across the U.S., she suggests you check out Extra Space Storage, the leaders in self-storage.
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